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THE LAST THING YOU WANT, MIGHT BE THE THING YOU NEED.



Maybe, the best advice I’ve ever received.


‘Get back to the basics.’

Drink enough water, get enough sleep, eat, move, connect, construct a routine.

Depression bleeds us of all motivation, enthusiasm and joy. The hopelessness we’re left with can send all self care rituals out the window and sometimes, they’re the hardest things to get back.


When you don’t feel like doing anything, it’s beyond frustrating to be told to “get up and get on with it.’


But, sometimes that’s what we need.


Here are a few things that have helped me, not only when I’ve been low, but in maintaining stable mental health when time’s aren’t so difficult.


  1. Construct a Routine

I'VE ALWAYS FOUND WORKING FROM A LIST IS REALLY HELPFUL. SETTING LITTLE GOALS TO ACHIEVE EACH DAY - AND IF YOU DON'T GET AROUND TO IT, JUST CARRY THEM OVER TO THE NEXT DAY.


SET AN ALARM EACH MORNING, SEE IF YOU CAN WATCH THE SUNRISE. SCHEDULE IN MEALS, INCLUDE SOME CONNECTION - SIMPLY A PHONE CALL, AND OF COUSE, GENTLE MOVEMENT.


THIS IS SO HARD TO START, BUT ONCE YOU GET INTO THE RHYTHM OF IT, I KNOW YOU WILL FEEL PROUD OF YOURSELF. AND THAT IS AN EMPOWERING THING.


2. Keep Moving


START SLOW. HIGH INTENSITY EXERCISE CAN REV UP YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM. I CAN ONLY SPEAK FROM MY EXPERIENCE, BUT WHENEVER I'VE GONE TOO HARD WHEN I'M FEELING WEAK, I CRASH VERY QUICKLY AND IT'S HARDER TO MOVE THE NEXT DAY.

OF COURSE, IF GOING HARD IS WHAT YOU'RE CRAVING, GO FOR IT. ONLY YOU KNOW YOUR BODY.


I PREFER A GENTLE WALK AND SOME REALLY LIGHT YOGA TO START WITH, THEN AS I GRADUALLY FEEL STRONGER, I ADD A BIT OF STRENGTH.


THE MOST IMPORTANT MESSAGE I WANT TO GET ACROSS, IS THE MOVEMENT IS FOR YOUR MIND AND BODY. IT'S NOT ABOUT LOSING WEIGHT OR BODY IMAGE, THAT WILL ONLY ADD MORE STRESS AND PRESSURE.



3. Eat Regularly


I DON'T NECESSARILY MEAN EAT THREE MEALS A DAY PLUS SNACKS. YOU CAN ONLY DO YOUR BEST.

WE ALL KNOW THAT EATING FRUITS, VEGETABLES, PROTEINS, CARBOHYDRATES AND FATS - AND AVOIDING HIGHLY PROCESSED FOODS, IS THE BEST WAY TO GO...


BUT, IF YOU CAN ONLY STOMACH A PIECE OF DRY TOAST AND SOME NOODLES SOME DAYS. THAT, IN MY HUMBLE OPINION, IS BETTER THAN NOTHING AT ALL.


FORCE A COUPLE OF KIWIFRUIT IN THERE AS WELL. GET THAT VITAMIN C AND FIBRE .



4. Get Enough Sleep


SLEEP IS UNDENIABLY ONE OF THE MOST IMPORTANT FACTORS IN MAINTAINING GOOD MENTAL HEALTH.


I MAKE A RULE OF GETTING TO SLEEP BEFORE 10PM.

THERE'S A LOT OF RESEARCH OUT THERE SHOWING THAT IT'S NOT ONLY THE AMOUNT OF SLEEP WE GET THAT'S IMPORTANT, BUT THE TIME WE GET TO BED. GENERAL CONSENSUS, THE EARLIER THE BETTER.


IF YOU STRUGGLE TO GET TO SLEEP BEFORE MIDNIGHT, HAVE A LOOK AT SLEEP HYGIENE AND RITUALS TO HELP YOU SETTLE DOWN EARLIER.



5. Stay Connected.


CONNECTION IS ONE OF OUR BASIC NEEDS FOR SURVIVAL. EQUIVALENT TO FOOD, SHELTER AND WATER.